Unpacking & Unpeeling: The Process of Healing Emotional Wounds Part II

wounded heart

In one of my previous posts – Unpacking & Unpeeling: The Process of Healing Emotional Wounds (part 1) we looked at the similarities between the healing process of wounds or injuries to our physical bodies and the healing process of wounds to our spirits, our souls, and our emotions.  We looked at how God heals us in our emotions and in our spirits over time in the same way that he designed our physical bodies to heal.

In this post, we are going to take another look at the wound healing process.  Specifically we are going to unpack what is known in the medical world as Chronic WoundsChronic Wounds are wounds that never heal right.  They last forever.  They require continual treatment and care way past the normal healing time.  These wounds require constant cleaning, antibiotics and other specialized wound treatments in order to keep the patient out of pain.  What is the origin and cause of chronic wounds?  Why don’t they ever heal? How come some people are more susceptible to chronic wounds than others?

From a spiritual or emotional standpoint we can look at this and draw some key implications in terms of inner healing.  A person who is generally emotionally and spiritually sound or healthy can suffer a wound, injury or trauma in their hearts.  They will bleed.  They will hurt and be in pain.  They may cry and suffer for a while.  However, because they are overall emotionally and spiritually healthy, they will begin to heal.  They will begin to bounce back in a normal pattern over time.  On the other hand, a person who is already spiritually and emotionally unhealthy to start with will not have the capacity to recover from small or minor wounds and offenses much less major trauma.   They have no internal fortitude or resources within.  Without out help, they will get “stuck” in their wound healing process.  Without help, a person in this state can live in a perpetual state of half-healed limbo.  The irony is that many people walk around like this.  They look healed on the outside but on the inside they are still very much wounded.

According to Wound Care Centers, “A chronic wound is a wound that just will not repair itself over time.  Chronic wounds are often thought to be “stuck” in one of the phases of wound healing.  Causes of a chronic wound are varied, but the most significant ones are: the age of the patient, chronic underlying conditions such as diabetes, poor nutrition, stress, lack of mobility, and overall poor health.

What are the significant underlying factors that would cause a person to not heal right emotionally?  One hugely important factor that prevents or stalls the healing process is unconfessed or unresolved sin still operating in someone’s life.  No one is perfect.  We all fall short (Romans 3:23).  But to be healthy and whole, we must repent and receive grace daily.  When we know we have done wrong in our hearts, there is no way we can adequately heal knowing full well deep down on the inside that we are not right.

Sin is a precursor and underlying cause of spiritual death.  Physical wounds involve the death of living tissue.  In medical terms, the death of living tissue is known as necrosis.  Necrosis is a Greek word meaning the stage or act of dying.  Physical healing of our wounds is the entire process of restoration of damaged or necrotic tissue to normal function.  Our bodies will do this automatically by either 1) regenerating totally new living tissue to replace the dead tissue or 2) repair the dead tissue with scar tissue. 

Jesus came to deliver us from spiritual necrosis.  He brought life and healing through his own necrotic process on the cross. Then with great power, He was resurrected.  The resurrection power at work in our lives will do two things in our wounded lives: 1) regenerate us all over again as if we had never sinned thus bringing us into righteous standing  2) repair the wounded areas of our lives with scar tissue.  To prevent a normal wound of the heart from turning into an oozing chronic wound we must receive salvation from Christ and confess our sin regularly.  In other words, don’t let stuff just pile up in your heart.  According to 1 John 1:9, if we confess our sins he is faithful and just to forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Another key driver in chronic emotional wounds is poor spiritual nutrition.  Simply put, if you get into a car accident and suffer closed wounds and deep skin lacerations to your body, the doctor at the hospital is not going to prescribe a diet of potato chips, candy bars and soda.  You will receive the most nutritious (perhaps not tasty) meals that they can serve you while you are under hospital care.  On top of that you will receive IV fluids, antibiotics to prevent infections and perhaps vitamins. They will clean and dress your wounds daily and check on them.

Now how come we think that we can go through job loss and changes, divorces, child abuses and traumas, unnaturally hard circumstances, grief, relationship abuse, pain and struggles but not take care of ourselves emotionally and spiritually? We chose a snack diet of five minutes of prayer.  We listen to one inspirational song on the radio.  We go to church maybe once a month.  We crack open the bible and read one dry verse.  We don’t talk to anyone about our problems.  We stuff it all on the inside and pretend.

Adequate spiritual nutrition consists of daily prayer time, daily bible reading, being with other believers who can not only uplift and support you but also speak truth (even if you don’t like it) and worship.  Failure to receive spiritual nutrition on a regular and consistent basis will keep a chronic wound on your heart.

Lack of exercise or mobility is another issue with chronic wounds.  Physically speaking, this happens to elderly people who cannot get around easily.  Poor muscle tone because of lack of movement keeps the wound fresh and unhealed.  When looking at this from a spiritual angle, we can easily see that if you do not develop spiritual muscles through exercise, when a wound or a fight comes, you have no strength.  You cannot move and you do not heal.  How are spiritual muscles exercised? Much in the same way you receive spiritual nutrition.  They go hand in hand.

If you are renewing your mind daily in the word of God, the Word will be operative and active in your mind and heart.  When the wound comes (and it will) you will have the strength to fight it off, not receive it or if it comes, you will be able to bounce back.  If you are spending time in prayer daily, when the potential wound shows up, you will be able to quickly discern what is happening and be in a position to allow God to intervene without resorting to your fleshly human methods which usually end up wounding yourself and others.  The whole point of spiritual nutrition and exercise is to not only prepare you for eternity, but to also allow you to live down here on earth in the midst of constant conflict and inevitable challenges that come to inflict injuries to your soul.

We are living in a world where most people are spiritually and emotionally malnourished, living off of crumbs and junk food, have flabby spiritual muscles, live under constant pressure, stress and strain. We continually sweep sins under the carpet when forgiveness and freedom is readily available.   We then wonder why we get easily offended, we get our feelings hurt, and we get bent out of shape over simple stuff.  We wonder why everyone is so angry and have a stinky attitude.

This is called foolishness.  Long-term foolishness with our spiritual health causes wounds to stink and become rotten (think chronic).  Calmly consider these three different translations of Psalm 38:5

 My wounds stink and are corrupt because of my foolishness. (KJV)

My sores smell and grow bigger because I do foolish things. (NLV)

My wound smells rotten.  They fester because of my stupidity. (NOG)

Weeeeell, Well, Well! Perhaps this is the reason why we have many foul-smelling Christians.  We fail to take care of ourselves yet we claim to know God. We don’t have time to continue the same cycle of foolishness and failure to allow Christ to heal our wounds.  Chronic wounds may not cause immediate death but they will definitely impair and hinder our walk in God, impede our true destiny and affects the lives of others.  Our failure as Christians to actually do what it takes to take care of and heal our wounds greatly impacts our witness and in some cases causes others to become wounded.  Remember the saying — “Hurting People Hurt Others”.

Beloved, let us stop the foolishness.  We cannot blame others for what they did to us.  They may have inflicted the wound, but because of our foolishness we are the ones who let it get chronic and smelly. Let us not grow weary in well doing.  Let us not grow weary in completing our process of healing.  Let us do everything we know how to do in order to be healed and maintain our healing in Christ.


8 thoughts on “Unpacking & Unpeeling: The Process of Healing Emotional Wounds Part II

  1. The death of necrosis may be the kind of ‘death’ or ‘destruction’ sometimes spoken about in scripture that is often interpreted as loss of salvation. Very interesting. Do you have specific scripture passages from which these thoughts come, or which shed more light on this whole subject?


    • Hi Jay, Thanks for stopping by and I respect and appreciate your very good question. Yes, indeed there are many scriptures that point to the relationship between sin and death, which is a necrotic process of slowing dying and decaying. When God created Adam and Eve, the first humans, we were designed to live forever (think about how powerful and complex the human DNA is). However, once they made a choice to deliberately disobey God, it introduced the element of physical and spiritual death for human beings. Imagine if all humans from the time of Adam & Eve, (esp, very evil ones) were still alive today! Because we are so wonderfully made, the some of the ancients as recorded in the Bible still lived over 900 years until after the flood. We are so sinful and deathly now, that we think it is amazing to live past 100. It is the sin element rapidly decreasing our life span. There are some theories out there that suggest that because us humans were physically and spiritually designed to live forever that God had a pre-determined population number for us so that that earth wouldn’t overpopulate, similar to angels who live on forever and do not die. At any rate because we disobeyed God and introduced the proclivity towards evil into the earth and into our bodies, Adam & Eve were expelled from the Garden of Eden so that they could not partake of the tree of life and live on forever. So we have been dying physically and spiritually ever since. To redeem mankind from the fallen state and offer those who would believe the chance for eternal life, God sent Jesus Christ. Even for those of us who believe, we are still bound to earthly bodies which grow old and die. However, if we choose to accept Jesus’s spiritual death sacrifice in lieu of our spiritual death for our sins, we get to live eternally. The progression to spiritual death via sin is a process, like necrosis. A person can sin a long, long time but after a while the spiritual and of course natural death catches up if they reject God. Here are some scriptures for you:

      Taken from NIV:

      Romans 5:12 Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin,and in this way death came to all people, because all sinned…

      Romans 5:14 Nevertheless, death reigned from the time of Adam to the time of Moses….

      Romans 5:21 …so that just as sin reigned in death, so also grace might reign through righteousness to bring eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

      Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

      James 1:15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.


  2. I thank God for your articles. I have hurt and pain from my One and Only child. I have tried. How? what scriptures do I read for hurt, pain, rejection of a Grown Adult Child? God Bless you.


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  4. Love the thought and wisdom that has gone into this and the prior arcticle.
    I have gone through two long periods of suffering in my life- one due to the ill health of my mum and the other is the ill health of my son. Eventually I decided to allow God to prune, refine and strengthen me through these periods. It was that or go mad! I learnt the need for it when my mum didn’t cope and her hurt , hurt me. Really appreciate your work!!

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