The 2 Reasons Why You Are Going Thru


I don’t know about you, but I really do not like to “go thru”.   Going through tough times, situations, circumstances is HARD.  It isn’t fun.  Who likes struggling?  Who likes having to smile on the outside but on the inside you are crying?  No one.

Yet, in the midst of going through a hard situation, life continues to move forward.  The world does not stop just because we are going through.  As a matter of fact, sometimes the pace of our lives speeds up the moment we hit a trial or a rough patch.

For me, sometimes right in the midst of emotional turmoil or feeling bad on the inside is when it appears that all eyes are on me and I must perform. I must keep it moving. I must show up fully even when I am struggling.  Just because I go through doesn’t mean I can hide out or make excuses as to why I can’t.  I must go through my “go thru” and so do you!

Over the years of enduring a variety of assaults, tests, temptations, struggles against my mind, emotions, children, finances, relationships I have discovered two primary reasons why God allows us to “go thru” —- Our Growth and His Glory.  Every trial, temptation, test and struggle if fully allowed to do its work inside of us, will automatically do two things:  Grow us up and Give God the Glory.  Whether or not our “go thru” situations are initiated by Satan, poor choices, or God allowing — our Growth and His Glory are the only two main things that God cares about.

Our Growth

And He told them this parable: A certain man had a fig tree, planted in his vineyard, and he came looking for fruit on it, but did not find [any].  So he said to the vinedresser, See here! For these three years I have come looking for fruit on this fig tree and I find none.  Cut it down! Why should it continue also to use up the ground [to deplete the soil, intercept the sun, and take up room]?  But he replied to him, Leave it alone, sir, [just] this one more year, till I dig around it and put manure…Luke 13: 6-8 (AMP)

Just like this fig tree, we are supposed to grow and produce fruit in our lives.  We are not here to deplete the soil, intercept the sun and take up room on this planet yet fail to live fruitful, God-honoring and effective lives for God.  We were created for His Glory.  He doesn’t get glory when we fail to grow to our full potential. As human beings, as long as we have the basic necessities of life, i.e., food, clothing and shelter, we will grow physically into adulthood.  As we grow physically, we will inevitably grow mentally to the extent we need to navigate this world.  However, higher levels of thinking, emotional and spiritual growth are intentional choices.  We must deliberately and intentionally choose to change and do better.  This is no easy feat.

Often times, the only way we can grow is to be put in situations of pressure and change (manure) that it literally forces us to dig deep and in order to survive. It is only under the pressure cooker of the stress (manure) that we can truly expand our capacity.  We only produce lasting fruit when we are stretched outside of our standard comfort zone.  But, once you have experienced growth in a certain area, once you have stretched your capacity, once you see that you can do it, you will never be the same!  This is what the trial, the test, the tribulation does for us.  Once we come to the other side of the test, we realize that we are not the same person who went into the test.  Once we have lived through the “manure” we realize that we can handle way much more than what we thought.  We come through stronger, more resilient and with a greater capacity to receive and retain greater revelations and blessings from God because we can be trusted to handle it.  Why can we be trusted?  Because we passed the Test and we learned the Lesson of the Test!

The biggest key to making the most out of a “go thru” experience is to make sure that you truly learn the lesson.  Gain all the wisdom you can while you are in it.  This means getting quiet and reflecting on it.  I have learned that when I navigate struggles correctly I receive a greater amount of wisdom. Why pay a high price for a lesson (manure) and still refuse to learn?  And when I think back on my life — how much lost money, time, emotional energy did I spend, but still didn’t learn because I didn’t take the time to reflect on it. We lose a boatload of wisdom that we could’ve gained simply from not reflecting and thinking about what we went thru! There is a way to suffer (endure manure) according to the will of God, there is also a way to suffer that is not accordingly to the will of God.  Suffering will change you, but not always for the best —- you have to make an intentional choice to grow and learn the lesson of the test!

His Glory

Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit: so shall ye be my disciples John 15.8 (KJV)

There are those who claim that positive messages and prosperity teaching is way off base.  I beg to differ.  God is not glorified when we are living in lack, failing to produce fruit, in want and in need due to our own failure to think better and do better. Here is how He is glorified as indicated in the verse above: when we BEAR MUCH FRUIT.  Note the word MUCH.  It is not a little bit.  Much Fruit.  It is spiritual fruit first that then manifests in the natural.  Fruit of the Spirit and with that we should see a tangible outward manifestation of our fruit that not only enables us to live and enjoy our lives naturally but to also impact and bless others in a meaningful way.  Our God is big, great and very powerful.  He created a very big, wonderful and prosperous earth.  His original intent and design was that we be fruitful and multiply on this earth since He gave us dominion over it in the first place.  He gets the most Glory when we are prosperous in our souls, bodies and spirit.  He gets the most Glory when we walk in health.  He gets the most Glory when our lives are so blessed that we can help others become fruitful and multiply in their lives.  This is called bearing fruit.

As long as we keep in mind that at the end of the day, ALL of the Glory belongs to God and not us, we will be in alignment.  The moment that we allow our flesh and pride take first seat, is the moment we set ourselves up for a fall.  It is the moment where we must take one more trip around the manure mountain so that we can re-learn the lesson one more time.   In all things, He gets the glory. As a matter of fact, we were created for His glory, not our own glory.

I heard someone say, “We use our coat rack to hang our coats on.  God created man to hang His glory on.”  Catch that!  God wants to hang His glory on us!  For that to happen we must be in alignment by making the choice to go thru, grow up and bear fruit.  We must learn the lesson of every test and struggle so that we do not repeat it.  We must be willing to be stretched so that we can handle the mantle of the blessing and glory that He has in store for us!

Beloved, don’t lose heart or become discouraged in your season of “go thru”.  Go thru knowing that all things are ultimately working together for Your Growth and His Glory.

Until Next Time,


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