FREE Year-End Bootcamp Webinar with Pastor Ron Pitts! #GetRealEnlarge

Blessings & Peace to You!

We only have a few weeks left in 2018.

In don’t’ know about you but A LOT has happened in 2018.  Some good and some not so good..,

Yet, here we are on the cusp of a brand new year.  Saying the same old stuff about how things are going to change and how you will be different year after year gets very, very old after you have endured many New Year’s Eves in your life is still pretty much the same.

Trust me, I know.

Practically speaking, the only REAL way to make any type of significant shifts, progress and forward momentum into a new year is to truly Get Real – real with yourself (the painful ugly stuff) and with God (come clean with Him) then Be Healed (take the time to do it) and then and only then can we truly expand and #Enlarge to become the men and women we are destined to be.

This is true freedom and real growth.

Often we want to pretend, fake, front, take shortcuts, be lazy, procrastinate, pretend we don’t know, we are too tired, we don’t have support, nobody likes us, nobody really cares, we don’t have the time, it is easier to watch TV, go out to eat, hang out, get entangled in dead-end relationships, be on social media ANYTHING but feeling the pain of healing.

So unless we hit rock bottom or are very intentional, we stay the same.

But this doesn’t have to be you!  I’ve partnered with a very powerful and anointed man of God, Pastor Ron Pitts out of Birmingham, AL to provide a safe space for you to DETOX from 2018 and prepare your soul, heart, and spirit to ENLARGE for what God has in store for you in 2019.

This is a FREE boot camp webinar designed to help you clear out 2018 and walk with confidence and clarity when 2019 comes in.  There may just be ONE key nugget, revelation, insight, or healing word that will create all the momentum you need heading into 2019 to make the shift!

The webinar will be held Wednesday, 12/19/18 at 7pm CST / 8 pm EST.  Two blessed and highly favored individuals who stay on the duration of the webinar will receive FREE signed copies of either my book A Woman’s Journey Home or Pastor Ron’s Book How to Respond When God Says No!


Don’t miss this powerful time of impartation, activation, detoxing and prayer!


In Him,


An Unexamined Life Is Not Worth Living


Blessings, Grace and Peace to you !

Ever since my last blog post I have been very busy producing my second book project and I am very pleased to announce that my second book – A Woman’s Journey Home: 14 Keys to Ascending to the Next Dimension is now available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle!!!

Click here to check it out

As we come to the close of 2018, many people will check out and go numb and sort of just glide into the next year.  But not you !!

You are an individual of purpose.  Because of that you know that now is not the time to “check out”, but “Check-in”.

Now is not the time to sit idly by with old offenses, unprocessed pain, emotional residue, unfinished business from back in January of this year still lurking around in your heart and mind.  Now is not the time to fall into the mindless distractions of holiday parties, events, programs, visits, shopping, drinking, eating, dates and dinners to the detriment of your whole soul.

Not that anything is wrong with any of the above, but the bigger question is — whether or not we can engage in such activities, but still take the time to do our heart and soul inventory.

If we are so busy and distracted doing the above as we close out 2018, 2019 will quietly creep in and we haven’t made space in our hearts for the new thing that God has in store for us.

It’s time to examine our lives and ask the hard questions. Look at your timeline, your emails and your calendar. Where did your energy go in 2018?

An unexamined life is not worth living. – Plato

I mentioned on my Facebook live on this past Saturday, that we can longer go around saying “I’m living my best life, but yet still have not yet examined our current lives.  The truly best life is an examined, intentional life.

Click here to see this live video. 

I go more in-depth on what we must do to take that inventory and to examine our lives in Chapter 2 of my newly released book – A Woman’s Journey Home: 14 Keys to Ascending to the Next Dimension.   A very special thanks to everyone who has downloaded the Kindle Version or who has purchased the paperback via Amazon taking it to the top 100 bestsellers in the Kindle Personal Spiritual Development for Women Category!!!!

Click here to download your copy today! 

Remember to rise above the sway and fever of the masses. Be different. Take inventory. Examine your life to have your best life in 2019.

More to come and much love,


The Three Kinds of Couples + LoveRESET Masterclass


Greetings Dear Subscriber!

I was thinking the other day.

How often we log into Instagram and Facebook and see the beautiful couple pics – holding hands, at a nice restaurant, with the kids, after church, someplace outside with a gorgeous background…

You know which ones I am talking about – the perfect looking married or dating couple with the perfect pics. Some have lots of emoji’s & mushy language.  Sometimes there are others with lots of TMI and oversharing!

But follow them home.  Things may not be as rosy in the real life as it appears to be in their offline life. Honestly, the ones who share too much, are more of a red flag because it appears that they are relationally insecure.  Why? Those who overshare need the outside validity that they are okay and that their relationship is okay.

There are three types of Couples:

The Cute Couple: The #Instacouple with perfectly curated, captured and posed “relfies” (relationship selfies). The validity of their relationship ebbs and falls based on number of likes & comments on social media. They are too busy adjusting the filter and coming up with the right #hashtag instead of working on their relationship. Instead of being in the moment of these carefully curated and crafted pictures, they are too busy posing and posting to be truly PRESENT in the relationship.  When the pics are done, they may not even be really speaking to or engaging with each other at all.  They are image and Instagram conscious, not internally conscious.

The Couple of Convenience: These are the couples who are together because of shared history — NOT shared vision, purpose, goals and dreams.  They may have lost or never had a truly deep emotional and spiritual connection.  They are together for materials, religious, and financial reasons.  The other person makes their life easier and they are “good enough”.  They are settling. They stay with the other person because of a perceived lack if they were not there – not because the other person actually ADDS to their life.

The Called Couple: These are the couples who are mutually aligned in purpose and who are each other’s equal on multiple dimensions (not JUST spiritually equally yoked).  Individually, each one comes to the relationship table already full (not thirsty), living fruitful lives and are emotionally ready for a real relationship. These are the ones who see their relationship as more than just about them, but for a higher purpose.  These are the ones committed to personal growth individually as well as a couple.

Which couple are you? If you are in a CALLED relationship, many blessings and let me know!  What are you doing to maintain at that high level?  If you are not in a relationship, where have found yourself in previous relationships and what are you doing NOW to be ready for the level of maturity that being in a CALLED relationship requires?

To learn more about these couples — Watch the video I created on this very topic (click here for the link) –

If you are not in a relationship and desire to be ready for a CALLED kind of Love, come be a part of a series of FREE Live Closed Mentorship sessions with me at  I’m transitioning to a higher level of conversation about love for those who are ready to join me on this journey.  If you have cut the ties, done the work and are actively taking steps to walk in purpose, come check it out.  It’s totally free. Walk with me!

Love Tonika