The Covered & Complete Woman: How to GO THRU with Grace


Why do we become so resentful and impatient with our process – in particular the mistakes and struggles along the way? Why doesn’t God just supernaturally wave His hand and BOOM — we are delivered and set free from the issues of our past? Why do we always have to go through some kind of process? And why, oh why does it have to take so long?

Sometimes in the midst of emotional and spiritual recovery we become impatient with our own healing process.

We totally understand when a person has to slow down and take care of themselves to recover from a stroke, a heart attack, a car accident or any other life threatening illness or accident.

However, when it comes to emotional and spiritual recovery time, we are more diminishing and dismissive over this recovery process because it is not something that can be outwardly seen, measured or quantified.

The process of healing, is in reality, a process of becoming aware of and releasing the stinking thinking, lies and beliefs surrounding the situations in your life that caused pain and suffering.

It is a process of not only going back and healing the old wounds, but also dealing with the lies and beliefs that you began to believe about yourself as a result of the old wounds that continue to linger and affect your current reality.

Becoming aware of and becoming free from the old stories, beliefs, lies and patterns does not happen in five minutes.   Oftentimes, we do not even realize the patterns and belief systems because they run so deep and are very profound. We do not know what our subconscious beliefs are most of the time, but we see the results manifested in our lives. This is why you can quote scriptures all day long but still see no true results because there is an underlying lie, old belief system in operation that you are not aware of.

In Romans 12: 2 we are called to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. Our spirits are saved but our minds and the inherited beliefs and patterns we have formed are not!

While you are in this mind renewal process, take the time to seek God and ask him to reveal to you what you really believe about yourself deep down on the inside. Ask Him to open your eyes to the patterns. Be willing to see yourself. This process takes A LOT of courage. Getting real and being healed is not for the weak or faint of heart! Immerse yourself in the Word of God, books and training to renew your mind and re-train your mind according to who you are as a child of God — not the underlying lies!

And while you are in this process remember this — you are a totally a different person now, so just because you feel the consequences of the decisions made by the person you were 10 or 20 years ago, stop hurting and blaming yourself. This is not serving you. God is not hurting you or blaming you. He took the hurt, the blame and the shame on the cross. You are not helping by creating self-inflicted suffering. As a matter of fact, you are holding up your own healing process!

Be reminded that according Romans 8:29 you were foreknown and predestined. You were called by God for a specific purpose even in the midst of ALL of your struggles.  You are not a surprise to God! He has you Covered!

Because you were already called, you can be confident that He who began a good work in you will complete it (Philippians 1:6). And even with all of your frailties, inadequacies, past mistakes, choices, resulting consequences that are still unfolding, you are still complete in Him (Colossians 2:10). You can still have life to the full, till it overflows because you have Him.

Where you end, He begins. Where you lack, He fills. His Grace is Sufficient (2 Corinthians 12:9). His strength is made perfect in your weakness! Time out for being mad, resentful and offended at yourself for your past and what you had to go thru in order to grow.

God designed us to Grow. He is a God of steps, order and growth. Everything must grow or it will die. Guess what? Growth involves making mistakes. Growth involves learning from mistakes.

Growth involves reflection, correction and redirection. Growth means change. Growth means transformation. You can no longer afford to be resentful of your own growth process for all of these years.

Question: How would the New YOU — the mature, free, forgiven and whole New You conduct herself now? How does blaming the Old You and being mad at the Old You serve the New You now? What good is it doing?

The New You no longer has to over give, over extend, overdo, or live in state of in overwhelm. The Old You did this because she didn’t think she was enough or worthy. She didn’t think she was being heard. She did not know how to live loved. She did not know how to life in the flow of God’s grace, gifts, blessings and abundance. She was broken. She needed attention and validation. She was insecure. She believed the lie that she was not enough or worthy due to abuse, abandonment and rejection.

But the New You is complete, full and enough Right NOW!

From this point on, when the lies scream louder than the truth, remember this:

  1. You now abide in Christ
  2. You allow Him to transform you
  3. You receive His grace instead of sing about it
  4. You now walk in wisdom because you have learned from your mistakes
  5. You know that Christ’s favor surrounds you like a shield and mercy and goodness follows you
  6. You know that you are Called, Confident, Covered and Complete in Him as you continue to heal, grow and recover your life.

I encourage you to embrace these truths and become comfortable and free TODAY with who YOU ARE in SPITE of your struggles and imperfections knowing that you are truly COVERED and Complete IN CHRIST!

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Are You Striving on the Inside or Resting? You Must Be At Rest to Receive the Blessing!


To be in a position to receive from God, we must first be at rest.  This is an internal rest on the inside where there is a cessation of all internal and external striving and anxiety.

God is sovereign.  He has All Power. We are mere, small humans.  Our life is like a vapor (James 4:14).  Our life is like a flower of the field.  We can be here today and gone today .  When we leave this earth realm, life will continue in some ways as if we never existed. (Psalm 103: 15-16). Our physical frame, our substance, the body in which our spirit dwells is like dust (Psalm 103:14).

Yet we strive and struggle as if everything we are dealing with right now is permanent and forever.    We fret and fume as if somehow we can make something happen in our natural efforts that can only be done by the supernatural hand of God.  We desire for the promises of God to fully manifest in our lives on our time frame and from our limited perspective.  We confess, go to church, pray, read the bible and fellowship.  We do all of these good and right things yet we find ourselves frustrated, restless and overwhelmed while the promises of God remain un-manifested in our lives.

There are many, many reasons for this – way too many to go into here as to why this could be the case for some of us, but I believe one of the primary and key reasons why we fail to fully receive and walk in the promises of God is because we strive for it too much in our limited human energy.  Our pride causes us to strive to do God’s work and “make it happen” in our own strength.   The problem is that our strength is very limited and we are not God, therefore we reach a point where we become too anxious and uptight to even receive what we are believing for, much less have the capacity to keep it when we receive it.

Strive:  To make great efforts to achieve something; to exert much effort or energy; endeavor; to struggle or fight forcefully; to contend; to make a great and tenacious effort; to exert oneself vigorously; to try hard; to labor and to work.

Restlessness: Marked by a lack of quiet, repose, or rest; not able to rest, relax or be still; feeling of agitation expressed in continual motion; the feeling of being agitated and not calm; turmoil; instability; bustle; inconstancy; hurry-scurry; anxiety; disturbance; disquiet; edginess; uneasiness.

For example, imagine a beautifully dressed woman sitting down in a very nice restaurant.  She would like to have a cold glass of water.  Normally, the customer will sit and patiently wait until the waiter or waitress stops by the table, sets down a glass, and pours water into the glass from a pitcher.  The customer does not have to do anything but sit there and wait for the glass to get full and then drink.

However, this woman is very, very thirsty and she is impatient.  She really wants someone to fill her glass RIGHT NOW with some ice, cold water.  Instead of sitting at her table and waiting, she decides that it is absolutely imperative that she gets her own water.  She is tired of waiting.  She is getting restless and agitated at having to sit still for so long.  She finds a glass, gets up and walks all over the restaurant in circles around the tables, to the restroom, outside in the parking lot, all over the place to get her glass of ice water.  She fails to notice the nice waitress calmly standing there with a pitcher of water waiting for her back at the table ready to fill her glass to the top if only she would stop scurrying about like a chicken all of over the restaurant, huffing and puffing, getting all tired and sweaty.

All she had to do was sit down and wait.  But no, she wanted to figure out how to get her own water, her way without any help from anyone.  She wants everyone to see that she can get her own water all by herself.  In the meantime, the once poised and well-mannered lady is now all crazy, tired, overwhelmed and frustrated.  Her hair is messed up and her clothes are wrinkled.  Her glass is now dirty and is cracked.

This is how we look to God when we try to help, heal, fix, deliver, figure out something, get revelation or wisdom, or try make something happen that only God can do. Yes, we have our own part to do.  Yes, we are supposed to work but ONLY from a place and position of rest and peace.  A peaceful mind is a powerful mind.  God has not given to us a spirit of fear (anxiety, striving, and turmoil) but of power, love and a sound mind (2 Tim 1:7).  When there is work to be done, it is to be done decently and in order under God’s timing with his wisdom and peace.  If the work we are doing to make something happen is causing inner striving, turmoil, restlessness and lack of peace than we can be sure that we are doing the work in our own fleshly energy.  Working in the energy of God is working in the energy of Grace. His grace is sufficient and his grace does not bring the striving restlessness but peace and poise even under trying circumstances.

In the example above, how can the lady get water in her glass when the glass is always moving? How can we expect to receive anything from God when we are busying moving about and refuse to get still enough to receive it in the first place? God is very big and powerful.  We are the little ones.  We must get still and seek Him for us to fill us with what we need.  Sometimes He will wait until we have depleted all of our human energy before He can begin to move on our behalf.  By this point, we are so exhausted that we cannot move and are finally still enough to receive what He was trying to get to us all along.

Rest: The cessation of work, exertion or activity; peace, ease, refreshment; mental or emotional tranquility; relief or freedom from disquiet or disturbance.

Because our God is peaceful and orderly it would behoove us to ask Him to help us become like Him.  It will help us receive from Him much easier.  We cannot approach an orderly, peaceful, All powerful, Almighty God in a striving, huffing, puffing, and anxious way. In 1 Peter 5:5 in the Amplified Bible reads:

“…Clothe (apron) yourselves, all of you, with humility …For God sets Himself against the proud (the insolent, the overbearing, the disdainful, the presumptuous, the boastful) – [and He opposes, frustrates, and defeats them], but gives grace (favor, blessing) to the humble…”

With all of the perplexities, issues and struggles we face in our lives the last thing we need is to have the Sovereign Lord God of the entire Universe opposing and frustrating us because we are too proud to stop trying to do it ourselves.  However, if we do not humble ourselves and get still before Him, this is exactly what happens.  Then  we wonder why everything is so hard, so frustrating and so aggravating when we believe we are doing everything right.

It is because we carry our own cares instead of casting our cares as we are told to do in 1 Peter 5:7. We then exalt ourselves in pride to do it ourselves in our way. God sits and watches the proud from person at a distance according to Psalm 138:6.  We do not need God watching us from afar as we stumble and bumble along without His Grace.  We need Him actively involved and working in our lives!

For us to truly rest and let God work and be led in our work by and through His Strength, we must align ourselves with what He plainly tells us in scripture about the nature of HIS work:

  1.  He chose us.  We didn’t choose Him. (John 15:16)  He made the choice to die on the cross for our sins and love us.  We didn’t have sense enough to choose Him first.
  2. It is God who works in us, both to will and to do HIS good pleasure (Phil 2:13).  He works in us (not us) and it is for His pleasure (not ours).  The Amplified version states: “[Not in your own strength] for it is God Who is all the while effectually at work in you [energizing and creating in you the power and desire], both to will and to work for His good pleasure and satisfaction and delight…”
  3.  Jesus is the Author of our Faith and He will finish what He started.  He started this work in his and He will finish it.  (Hebrews 12:2 )
  4. We are his workmanship.  We are His handiwork.  We were created to do preordained good works, but in His strength only. (Ephesians 2:10)
  5. We are to be confident that he started this workmanship in us and that He will keep on working in us until the day of Jesus Christ (Philippians 1:6)

We are to let God do it. It’s not about us.  This whole process is His business and His work. Not ours.

We are to wait with confident expectation and most of all in a spirit of rest so that we can receive the peace, the instruction, the wisdom, the revelation, and understanding that we need (and the breakthroughs and blessings) so that the work that we are to do we do it in His grace, His Timing, His Way and in His Strength.