Are you tired of the anxious feeling in pit of stomach regarding your relationship and ready to have sustainable peace this year? Need further confirmation? How much longer do you intend to suffer? Check out this checklist of just a few of the signs you need to cut it from the book, Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue:
From Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue
The Relationship is conducted on their terms. If you attempt things your way, you are met with objections, stonewalling, going silent, disappearing acts, and open hostility.
There is an absence of love, care, trust and respect.
It feels like you have an addiction or compulsion towards this person and keep going back even though you consistently keep getting disappointed.
They have betrayed you and broken your trust.
If you have forgotten who you are, your values, boundaries, your needs, hobbies, purpose, family, friends and relationship with God.
You have broken up several times for the same reasons ,but you keep going back. They promised things would change but it never does.
You are the side chick because they are otherwise attached/married or have a girlfriend, OR; you used to be the girlfriend at some point, but now you are the side chick.
If any of this sounds familiar, you should consider signing up for The Closure Class, free webinar to receive tools and strategies on how to get out and stay out. Thursday, June 22nd 8PM EST.
Did you wake up this morning with him and that situation on your mind again? (And if you are a guy reading this, the same applies! or you can pass this along to someone you know who needs this)
I’ve been there. In weird, painful relationship situation that never quite seems to get right. I came to a place where I finally got tired of my own mess and denial.
I got tired of pretending and praying. I got tired of waiting and wondering why he won’t change.
And I finally took action. I ended it. Yes, there was struggle of about 5 or 6 months but once I cut it, I CUT IT!!!! (and wrote a book about it)
If you are always praying about your relationship but you are still secretly crying and anxious… Acting like all is well in front of friends and family. Suffering and smiling. Painting the perfect picture on Facebook and Instagram. Going to church and work and acting happy. But deep down you know you have been praying for years for him to change and nothing has changed. It hurts so bad. Feeling unappreciated and unwanted. Forever trying to get the relationship back to the early days when you felt connected only to be left feeling drained from trying. Feeling like you are always nagging and complaining, but nothing changes. Praying and seeking God for his healing or to change him so that you can finally have a real, authentic relationship. Your heart has been crying out for years to finally feel loved, cherished and understood. If this sounds like you, then you need to be in this class!!
I have been remiss to blog lately! I’ve had a lot going on (and so have you I’m sure) but still it’s no excuse!
We are all (self-included) on the journey to getting real and being healed. Healing happens in layers. In the process, remember above all things – regardless of you circumstances you are worthy to be loved, cherished and understood in your romantic relationships.
Anything less, is a choice that you are allowing. So, ask yourself, what is it about this situation that no matter how jacked up it is, that I choose to stay? What am I denying and refusing to deal with? What is it costing me to stay in this? What is the cost (other people’s opinions, money, time lost, the children, etc.) to end it? Why am I willing to pay the price of keeping my heart diminished for years instead of paying the price to heal and be free?
Remember that. Next up — Two Things
Running on a Broken Heel – Heart & Sole Weekend – Charlotte, NC October
I am super excited to a part of the Running on a Broken Heel Movement and the amazing Heart & Sole Weekend in Charlotte, North Carolina on October 13-14. I will be there to share and teach on the topic of “Soul Ties” during the Saturday morning workshops. Make plans NOW to attend, check out the flyer below and click the link to purchase your tickets. It promises to be a sold out event as the Running On a Broken Heel events always are!!!
GetRealBeHealed Christian Life Coaching Now Available.
Part of why have I have been missing in action is the fact that I have now an official certified Christian Life Coach and HIScoach™ !! Yes, I am now a Certified Christian Life Coach and have been actively engaged in positioning myself to serve in a higher way. If you are in need of one-on-one coaching in your relationship or overall life situation, I’m here to help! I am still offering complimentary (aka – FREE) thirty minute clarity sessions on any issue of your heart that you are struggling with. If you are interested in scheduling a sacred time to connect and share what’s going on in a discreet and safe place, send an email to email@example.com with the SUBJECT LINE as “Talk2Tonika Session”. These sessions are 30 minutes via phone.
Stay connected and you will be hearing from me again, very soon!