The Making of Royalty: Protocols of the Palace

The Making of Royalty: Protocols of the Palace

Protocol: the official procedure or system of rules governing affairs of state or diplomatic occasions

God has a protocol that he takes Queens (and Kings) through.  If you are a believer, you are an ambassador of Christ.  You have authority (Luke 10:19). We are daughters of the King and for my brothers reading this, you are Sons of the King.  As such, we must know the protocols necessary to function effectively in the palace of our God-ordained purpose.  Queen Esther is our model throughout this series as we carefully look at how she conducted herself throughout her journey and glean wisdom for ourselves in our own personal journeys.

First of all, it begins in your mind. There must be a transition in your mindset – a renewal, if you will, that has to take place for you to fully function and walk in your role authentically.

As a regent and ruler in the Kingdom of God, you have to deeply know who you are in Him and function from that perspective.  You must know who you are when:

  • Your authority is tested.
  • Your emotions are everywhere
  • You make a mistake
  • Things go wrong
  • You are under attack
  • All hell breaks loose
  • The counterfeits show up, i.e., when the man you thought you were going to marry suddenly breaks if off or you find out he was unfaithful; or if you are a man reading this,
  • The woman you thought was the one, turned out to be the exact opposite of what you thought she was and you found out she had a lot of profound issues…..

During these you must must have grab hold of is the promises of God AND His processes for unfolding them in our lives.  The Bible is replete with promises and His processes, but for today let’s just look at a few and how it looks actually walked out in life.  The promises and processes of God:

  1. Are Yes and Amen (2 Cor 1:20) God says yes, then puts us in process to prepare us. Often we try to circumvent and short-cut the process, but short cuts always wind up taking longer. Remember, Esther was in process for a year before she was even allowed in the presence of the King.
  2. He has begun a good work in you and will perform it (Phil 1:6) Let Him finish that healing process and allow the healing to seal. Cooperate with God as He is healing you. Remember, you don’t choose the method or the way or how He heals, orders and prepares you. Our job is to just say yes.  Queen Esther humbly surrendered to Haggai’s instructions for her preparation and received special favor.  She didn’t try to tell him how she wanted her beauty and preparation treatments.  She didn’t try to force or dictate or tell Him what she thought it should be because it was uncomfortable and inconvenient.  Look at her end result.  She received half the kingdom.
  3. Lay aside every weight that so easily besets us (Heb. 12:2). We can’t take the dead weight of dead-end relationships, old issues and old wounds to the palace of purpose. Queen Esther had to let go of the dead weight of the residue surrounded around being an orphan.  She had to let the dead weight of a spirit of abandonment go.  She had the wounds similar to those of us who have gone thru rejection, traumatic childhoods, and divorce.  Sometimes we get stuck because we have become so used to and addicted to that spirit, that energy, that same old familiar pain.  It is dead weight. Let it go.
  4. Possess your soul – your mind, your will and your emotions patiently (Luke 21:19) – Queen Esther had to be patient and endure for an entire year in strange palace full of mystique and intrigue. In a harem full of other women vying to be the Queen, she couldn’t afford to not be in full possession of her mind, will and emotions. Especially when it was time for her to think and strategize to save her people. She was not “in her feelings”.  People’s lives were on the line. What about you? Whose lives are depending upon you to remain poised under pressure?
  5. Stagger not at the promises of God (Romans 4:20) Abraham saw his impotence and Sarah’s barrenness and still believed that he would become a father. Even after heartbreaks, divorce, all kinds of bad situations, are you able to still believe and have hope?  Stumbling, stalling, staggering when the situation looks bad is not the protocol of the palace.    We must walk boldly to the throne when we need strength.   Queen Esther most certainly felt afraid when it was time for her to make her request before the King but she did it anyway saying “If I perish, I perish.”
  6. Cast your cares (1 Pet 5:7) But don’t cast away your PROMISES (Heb. 10:35) for there is recompense of GREAT reward. We tend to do the opposite. We keep our cares and cast away our confidence.  To operate in our authority requires a deep level of trust in God that we are able to truly cast the care while at the same time keep our confidence.  This is the protocol of Kings and Queens.  They are confident and strong in the Lord and they do not allow the anxieties and cares of the world to overtake them.

I encourage you to embrace these promises fully in order to rightly follow the protocol of your palace — the protocols of the promised land of where you are going — Own you voice, own the vision , own your God-given value requires that we fully embrace the promises and the process God takes us through to get there.

Ownership and occupancy of the palace means that we must know who we are and whose we are – this is not based on up and down feelings, but the word of God.  Grab HOLD of the promises. Every time you hide out, shrink back, get stuck in overthought, shame, embarrassment, what other people think, comparison, and competition, you lose territory to the enemy.  Every day you don’t do what you are supposed to do, you could be preventing someone’s prayers from being answered. Stagger Not!  Embrace the Protocol.  Embrace the Process!


Are You Going to TRUST or Are you Going to TRIP? You Can’t Do Both!


Trip: the state of acting whack; to overreact or to lose your cool.

Trust: firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.

One day sitting at my desk at work, I had the thought: “It’s so much easier to trust than to trip.”

It’s easier on my spirit.  It’s easier on my soul to trust God, trust His Timing and trust His process.

Whenever I slip into “tripping”, then I run into problems.  Tripping is hard on my body.  I wreak all kinds of havoc my body when I choose to trip instead of trust.

I get that anxious pit feeling in my stomach.  I lose sleep.  I stress, overthink and worry.  Making the simple choice to literally take God at His word and simply CHOOSE to rest in Him in spite of what my reasoning mind, emotions and circumstances tell me is not easy, but it is doable.

Trusting God brings rest and revelation.

In returning and rest shall you be saved in quietness and confidence shall be your strength…but you would not…Isaiah 30:15

I love this scripture. When I choose to rest instead of fuss, fret and fume internally, I grow in confidence.  When I practice returning my thoughts to God – His goodness, His grace and His mercy, then I am able to be quiet within.   The scripture above states that in QUIETNESS and CONFIDENCE shall be my strength – not in stewing and brewing about my situation.  He also said in Psalm 46:10, Be still and know that I am God.  To know God and to receive His rest requires that we be still.

Receiving supernatural revelation on our issue also requires that we be still.  It calls for quietness of soul.  We are incapable of receiving true insight, revelation and understanding as long as our minds are overrun by wild, negative and frantic thinking.  It takes time to train our minds and our emotions to be still before God through prayer and meditation, but it is so critical if we are to learn how to trust instead of tripping.

Tripping, on the other hand, brings restlessness and regression. 

When I choose to trip instead of trust I am restless.  My mind is all over the place.  It’s hard to focus.  Instead of resting in God, it suddenly becomes easier to Google, to surf the net, scroll my Instagram and Facebook feeds or run the situation over and over again in my mind.  Whatever spiritual and emotional gains I have made previously during the times when I chose to trust, I now find that I have regressed and have to gain that ground all over again.

Trust brings Peace and Poise.

I’ve discovered that when I trust, I walk in greater levels of peace and poise.  I once read somewhere that “a peaceful mind is a powerful mind.”  I would add that a peaceful mind brings about poise.  Poise is the opposite of confusion and is marked by a calm, steadfast demeanor regardless of what the circumstances scream.  Poise is the ability to function under pressure when all hell breaks loose and to not lose your cool.  Poise is when I chose to follow wisdom and sound judgment instead of giving in to runaway emotions.    Peace and poise generate power and confidence without which, we will never attain the spiritual or emotional maturity required to walk in the blessings and grace that we so desperately desire and need.

Tripping invites powerlessness and pain.

When we chose to trip instead of trust, we invite powerlessness and pain into our lives.  A lot of our emotional pain is self-inflicted.  Even if other people hurt us, ultimately it is our response or reaction to their deed is what makes the difference in whether or not we walk in peace or power, powerlessness or pain.  It is the way we frame it and the story we tell ourselves in our heads about why they did what they did that creates the pain and the angst.  It is when we attempt to be God and read other people’s minds and motivations that we give away our own power.

We are created to trust.  We were not created to live in fear. Our bodies, our spirits our souls were created for love, trust, and freedom.  But when sin entered the world through Adam, fear and all the torment associated with it has since dominated humankind.

Where do you stand?   Are you going to trip or are you going to trust when everything falls apart?  Are you going to trip or are you going to trust when you don’t understand? Are you going to trip or are you going to trust God’s process when you are in a trial? Are you going to trip or are you going to trust when you make a mistake? Are you going to trip or are you going to trust when the consequences of the past unfold and the crazy thoughts hit your mind?  Remember that you can’t do both!  You can’t trust God, but still trip on the inside when things happen.  The only way to make it through times like this without losing your mind is a deliberate and intentional choice to trust God.

Are you going to trip or are you going to trust God today?

Be encouraged,




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