Are you tired of the anxious feeling in pit of stomach regarding your relationship and ready to have sustainable peace this year? Need further confirmation? How much longer do you intend to suffer? Check out this checklist of just a few of the signs you need to cut it from the book, Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue:
From Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue
The Relationship is conducted on their terms. If you attempt things your way, you are met with objections, stonewalling, going silent, disappearing acts, and open hostility.
There is an absence of love, care, trust and respect.
It feels like you have an addiction or compulsion towards this person and keep going back even though you consistently keep getting disappointed.
They have betrayed you and broken your trust.
If you have forgotten who you are, your values, boundaries, your needs, hobbies, purpose, family, friends and relationship with God.
You have broken up several times for the same reasons ,but you keep going back. They promised things would change but it never does.
You are the side chick because they are otherwise attached/married or have a girlfriend, OR; you used to be the girlfriend at some point, but now you are the side chick.
If any of this sounds familiar, you should consider signing up for The Closure Class, free webinar to receive tools and strategies on how to get out and stay out. Thursday, June 22nd 8PM EST.
The dead-end relationships I have been in have made me stronger because they forced me to learn how to stand alone and learn who I am (my identity, my purpose, my hang-ups, my habits, my quirks, my issues, my triggers, my wounds and what I need in a relationship) before I would connect myself to another person.
That’s why emotional healing, growth and personal development is SOOOO very important. Human beings are like MAGNETS. We attract what is familiar. We draw to ourselves people and situations that reflect our emotional, mental, spiritual states at a deep level. We attract a partner at the same level we are at emotionally and spiritually. Healthy people tend to attract healthy people. Unhealthy people tend to attract unhealthy people. If dysfunction, weirdness, co-dependency is all you saw in relationships growing up, then guess what you will subconsciously gravitate to? Guess what will be attracted to you? We must be very intentional to know ourselves, our issues, our triggers and what we need in a relationship or will attract not what we think we want, but what we truly and deeply resonate with on the inside. Get healed on the inside first.
Let’s stop trying to connect ourselves to another human without first learning how to stand alone. Let me get the relationship between God, me, myself and I right first before fixating on finding The One. #relationships #christiandating #godlydating #love #lovequotes #personalgrowth #GetRealBeHealed #Healthy #SelfWorth #Growth #PersonalDevelopment #Relationships #Attraction
Waiting for him to finally pop the question or get his act together so you can finally move forward…
Waiting for God to send #Bae or #Boo so that you can finally get married…
Waiting for another prophetic word of confirmation about your business or ministry…
Waiting for things to be “just so” and for ALL conditions to be perfect…
Waiting for certain, particular individuals to put their stamp of approval on your dream/calling/purpose…
Waiting on more money to come (but you can do a WordPress blog for FREE, you can load to YouTube for FREE, you can do a live broadcast on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Periscope for FREE, you can get a professional flyer on fiverr.com for $6, you can start writing the book for FREE now, you can create your own memes and quotes for FREE)..
But You Still Want to Wait.
The reality is you are not waiting on God or anyone else. It’s you. God is waiting on you! And if you are waiting on God are you waiting the right way or are you waiting the wrong way? How we wait determines the weight of glory that is to come! Waiting on someone else (like #boo or #bae before pursuing purpose) = #wrong. Waiting for approval of others = wrong. Waiting for a trumpet blast, 3 angelic visitations and 3 different prophetic words and all conditions to be perfect before you step out = wrong. Praying, studying the Word of God and following that still small voice = right. Choosing to believe in the Word you heard and taking action, even if small = right. Learn any lessons, correct and move forward = right.
Check out my broadcasts on Periscope and Facebook live on this very topic. Join me later this week on Wednesday and Thursday at 1PM EST I will be on Periscope I will be talking more about this!
Also Don’t forget – GetRealBeHealed Meet up This Saturday, February 25th @ 10am for those of you in the local Raleigh-Durham, North Carolina Area. An opportunity to connect with me in person as we come together for such a time as this! For serious like-minded women who are serious about letting go of dead-end situations and moving forward in purpose. Click here for details and to RSVP.