Issues of the Heart Pt. 2: Heart Expansion, Elevation & Establishment

(The 3 stages of Purpose & Love)

In my last blog post, we talked about why our hearts needed to expanded and enlarged for God’s love to flow through, for His purposes and plans for our lives to manifest and for us to be fruitful while we are on this earth.  Without an expanded heart, we will not have the depth or capacity to maintain and sustain Kingdom love (relationships/marriage) and walk in our purpose the way God originally intended.  Go check out it here.

Today, let’s talk about the next stages of heart development — Elevation.

Every layer of healing brings a new level of elevation. When you learn the lesson, you elevate.


To elevate or elevation: raise or lift (something) up to a higher position; to raise to a more important or impressive level; promote; upgrade; advance; enhance; to increase the level or amount of.

As we learned in the previous post, the process of heart expansion is literally the process of healing, purging and delivering the heart. Once the heart is walking in greater degrees of healing and wholeness, the next stage is elevation.  With every breakthrough, with every fresh freedom that comes from the removal of a bondage, there is a lightness and an elevation within the heart.

Hearts are meant to be light and free from bondage, sin, deception, darkness, bitterness, grief and sorrow.  We are created to live as beings full of love and light. Anytime there is damage, unprocessed pain, bondage and darkness within the heart, it is burdened.  When deep healing and purging occurs, there is more space for love.  There is more space for grace.  There is more space for the power of God to flow through. The burden is removed and there is lightness. Just like a hot air balloon tethered to the ground with weights, so does sin and pain burden down the heart.  When the weight is purged from the heart, it expands just like the balloon rises to the sky when the weight is removed.

Taking this a step further, when we learn the lessons that the sin, pain, brokenness, struggle or issue taught us and are able to walk with away from it with wisdom, we have now moved into the next stage of elevation.

For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. – Prov. 2:10


Lessons learned equate to wisdom won.  Wisdom won equates to PURPOSE.  Wisdom gleaned through the process of expanding and elevating the heart is a special wisdom that God intends to use for His greater purpose and to work out for good for those who love Him and who are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28).

When we have been healed and set free from the inside out, we must acknowledge that we have been given a great gift.  To whom much is given, much is required (Luke 12:48).  We cannot receive the gift of heart expansion along with the related blessings and then fail to reciprocate or give back.

Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, ‘Out of his heart will flow rivers of living water. – John 7:38


The way we give back is by elevating into our purpose – our calling.  When we have believed, received, and learned the lessons our soul needed, then comes the rivers of living waters that can help other people.  Rivers of living water can only flow from an expanded and elevated heart. We elevate our hearts when we give up the false pride of saying “I can’t do it”, and humbly walk out the gifts, talents, dreams and calling that we have been assigned based on the lessons learned and our gifts.

To be truly walking in a degree of elevation, requires that we answer the call of purpose.  When we begin to move out in the gifts, callings, talents and dreams that God has placed into us, we have now embarked on our life’s calling – the reason why we were put on this earth in the first place.  Oftentimes, the things we have suffered from and survived are the very things that hold the key to living a life of profound significance and meaning.

Many are called, but few are chosen (Matt 22:14).

The difference between the called and the chosen is that the chosen Chose to Answer. – Marshawn Evans Daniels


The choice to answer the call to purpose is the foundation of heart elevation.  Your heart absolutely must come up higher if you expect to serve Him in any capacity.  Not in a proud, haughty way, but in the ways and purposes of God. Your heart must come up higher in thoughts, intents and motives.  Our hearts must operate from the motivation and intention of God’s will as it is expressed in surrendered life.  We don’t like the word surrender, but it is a soul level surrender and humility to say yes to purpose and yes to the call.  It is pride and arrogance to run and hide.

I’ve heard it said that we want the crown without the cross.  We want the outward accolades, validation, fame, success, money that comes from outward elevation, but we don’t want the responsibility and the weight to show up that elevation calls for.  Elevation is a matter of the heart.  Before there is an outward elevation, there is always an inner elevation first.  The elevation of thoughts to God’s thoughts and ways must occur (for His thoughts and ways are higher (Isaiah 55:8).  The elevation of our speech, our prayers, and how we show up and conduct ourselves has to be in place.  Once these things start to occur,  the outward manifestation of an inner elevation will soon manifest.

When God sees that we can be trusted with the call, without being in a state of pride, then He is The One who orchestrates the outward elevation also known as promotion.

For promotion cometh neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south. But God is the judge: he putteth down one, and setteth up another. – Psalm 75: 6-7.


Outward promotion without inner elevation always results in disaster.  When a heart is still tiny and small due to unhealed wounds and unprocessed pain, if premature outward elevation occurs, the end result is usually destruction and delay.  The heart expansion and heart elevation must happen first on the inside so that we are rooted, grounded fixed and founded in the love of God.  This keeps us from being prone to seeking validation and approval from other people.  Seeking external validation and approval is always a sign of heart insecurity which must be healed.

I encourage you today to not sit on your healing process.  When you have allowed God to expand your heart by going thru the healing process, don’t simply stop there and refuse to move forward in your purpose.  Take the next step and begin to elevate into purpose. Elevate to the high calling of God that you were born for.  Let not the pain of the past or other people’s opinions keep you stuck.  As Felix Anderson states, “You had a purpose before anyone had an opinion.”

Take the high road and do not give up on the talents, gifts, dreams and lessons learned that have been refined and expanded in the fire of life.  Answer the call and elevate! Keep pressing towards the mark of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus! Philippians 3:14


Until next time,





My Current Reading List: In All Thy Getting, Get Understanding.

What are you reading?  Comment and Let me know!

Check out my current books I am reading thru…. What are you reading?  Wisdom is the principal thing and in all thy getting get an understanding (Prov. 4:7).  Receiving wisdom, knowledge & understanding thru books that heal and transform your thinking is key. Scrolling thru Instagram and Facebook reading quotes is not real reading! Lol. A very important part of my own personal healing and growth journey is being an avid reader. I am a bookaholic. I am a nerd.  🙂 Learning from the wisdom, testimonies and struggles of others helps me personally and in my own purpose and calling to help people detach, disentangle, disengage and detox from dead-end relationships. Naturally my own book is right there in the midst. Heehee. #LeadersAreReaders #Books #Bookshelf #bookstagram #bookslover

To Grow Your Business Or Ministry You Must Grow YOU: The First 4 Keys


The question begs to be asked.  Why am I discussing business under the Ladies Loving God Blog?  Because my whole passion revolves around the central concept that you must be rooted, grounded, fixed and founded in who you are as a Child of God before you can emerge or manifest any God-given talent in way that will bless you and impact the world.  You must have a strong foundation spiritually, mentally and emotionally for any business, ministry, or non-profit idea to take off and sustain itself.  Personal, emotional, and spiritual growth and development cannot be separated from growing a business or ministry.

Thus I have created the first in a serious of articles that identify the key foundations that must be laid in order for any purpose or calling from God to manifest to full potential. I do not claim to be an expert.   As a matter of fact, I am still building my own foundation.  This is what I have learned and gleaned over the past few years.  Reaching out to others is the best way for me to learn for myself.  So here goes:

Foundation Principle # 1 – Do Your God Work.  Get healed.  There are no short-cuts to emotional or spiritual healing. Check out: & Unpeeling the Process of Healing Emotional Wounds.  Take the time to do the inner work in order to lead and run your business or ministry with integrity and authenticity.  This is not easy to do.  The reason why we do not do it is because it is painful and messy.  It takes courage to allow yourself to feel the pain, process it, ask for and receive forgiveness, move through it and heal.  We try to bypass this in-working and rush quickly to a big outward manifestation.  This always comes back to trip us up later when we least expect it.  Unresolved issues always manage to show up in other areas.  It is also known as self-sabotage and denial.  Often, it is not as hidden as you think.  Oprah Winfrey said “The thing that you try hardest to hide is the thing that you broadcast the most.”

Foundation Principle #2- Believe in You.  How much negative self-talk runs though your mind on a daily basis?  Negative talk includes calling yourself Stupid or Dumb, beating yourself up over mistakes and being overly critical of yourself.  We speak to ourselves on the inside in ways that we would NEVER speak to or talk down to anyone else.  You don’t believe in someone you put down. You cannot honor God and then turn around and dishonor yourself.  Read  When You Honor Yourself You Honor God at You really do not believe in yourself if you secretly don’t like yourself.  Self-talk is very powerful. Clean up the negative self-talk and replace with the Truth of who you are in God.  Once you believe in yourself, you now have to OWN the value that you bring to the table which leads us to the next principle…

Foundation Principle #3 – Get Clear on You.  Do the work to get clear on what you are here for.  Get clear on and own who you are called to serve and bless with your talents, gifts and treasures. According to Kim Castle, Co-Creator of, “Business is the highest form of creation”.  It is the act of taking an idea, bringing it into existence as a tangible form, product or service that is of benefit to others while bringing prosperity to you.  In the process of getting clear, there can be no copycatting everyone else.  There is no need to re-invent the wheel either. You simply use other successful people’s strategies, templates, tools, processes and procedures as a starting point to get you going, but at the end of the day, only you can be you.  Like Lucinda Cross, ( author, speaker and coach said “Remove yourself from the sea of sameness”.  Get very focused on developing your core message.  Inspirational entrepreneurs create.  They do not compete.

Foundation Principle #4 Invest in You.  Be willing to invest in yourself.  You get what you put in.  Don’t expect people to spend money on you if you won’t spend money on you.   If you fail to perceive the value of reading books, purchasing training CDs, packages or programs, obtaining coaching, taking the time to take advantage of free tele-seminars and classes, then how do you expect your potential clients to see value in you? This means doing whatever you can within your financial means to spend the money necessary to build up your foundation and capacity.  As your cash flow improves, you should up-level the amount of money and/or time you spend on you for personal development.

Authentic, prosperous and strong business and ministry leaders will always build the foundations of their calling from the inside out, not outside in.  Building a strong internal foundation will enable you to handle the storms and pressures that are sure to come.  Then when unexpected happens, you have the capacity to handle it without falling apart. You can respond and not react to situations.

Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”  Matthew 7: 24-27 (NIV)

More Foundation Principles to follow….Stay tuned.