Live like you are deeply loved right now, dear reader!
One of the biggest and most profound revelations that I had a few years ago was the simple, yet profound fact that, my faith works better, faster, stronger from a place of LIVING LOVED than from a place of condemnation and shame.
The second biggest revelation moment for me occurred when I realized I had unforgiveness towards myself that was still blocking me up.
Knowing that you are loved and living as such is the key to forgiving and releasing yourself. The bottom line key to all transformation and growth is a deep revelation that God REALLY loves you and that your sin yesterday, ten years ago, today and tomorrow were already taken care of so that you can live F.R.E.E today.
No amount of beating yourself up or holding it against yourself will change or make anything better.
We cannot be used effectively by God if we are still unforgiving towards our self. In the Bible, we clearly see by evidence, that Apostles Peter and Paul had to fully and completely forgive themselves in order to have the ministries that they did.
Think about it. Peter denied Christ three times. Yet somehow, he managed to profoundly impact the world for the Gospel. Clearly, at some point he had to decide that even though he denied the Lord and felt like a complete failure that he was still worthy enough to preach.
Look at Paul. He was a straight murderer and hater of all Christians. He was the chief persecutor of all times.
Yet, somehow, he managed to write over half of New Testament as we know it. Somewhere along the way, Paul had to let go of his colorful and destructive past and give himself permission to preach and transform lives.
Therefore, you can surely let yourself off the hook too, my friend.
Release yourself form your self-imposed prison for marrying wrong, getting emotionally or physically caught up with the wrong person , engaging in sex outside of marriage, and anything else that you may have done that you still feel crushed about.
For me it was unforgiveness towards myself, resentment, pain and shame about what my young boys did to the house because I was so broken and caught up in trying to get married again instead of truly training and being present with them when they were very young (talk about guilt & condemnation!).
It was unforgiveness towards myself for all of the time I spent chasing and sweating to be married only to realize it was a big fat dead-end and I am left with chaos and struggles. It really made me deeply mad at myself and quite undone.
All of this created soul level pain that showed up in busyness, restlessness, anxiety, frustration. It was the root of the bitterness, unforgiveness, negativity, chaos, fear. It was the root of the NOT ENOUGH mentality, – not worthy – not good enough, guilty and still punishing myself for something Jesus died for and then on top of all that getting resentful at people who seemed to have it more together than I did.
The Forgiveness Prayer that set me free one day sitting down at a restaurant during lunch break (it was all I could do to not burst out crying in the restaurant) and held my head down so people would not see me but that was the beginning of a deeper healing journey:
“Self-forgiveness, The key to Healing” by Tracey Burchard:
You have done things to hurt yourself and others.
So has everyone else in the world.
Realize that you have always, unconsciously run off your inner programming
So has everyone else in the world.
Based on that programming, you have always done the best you could
So has everyone else in the word.
Every baby born in this world deserves to be loved.
And you were a baby born in this world and YOU deserve to be loved too.
You have punished yourself long enough, even prisoners go free after serving time.
Forgiveness is a sign of strength and courage
Forgiveness allows me to regain my control and personal power
After I read this and replaced the “you” with “I” in the prayer, I broke down and cried again! I also created the following affirmation that I began to say to myself every morning for almost 6 months.
I fully and freely forgive and release myself. I loose myself and I let myself go. I let go and I let God. The healing and redeeming power of Jesus Christ sets me free from all of my mistakes of the past, present and future and I go free to live and enjoy my life as a full, free and favored woman of God.
I encourage you, dear reader to embrace these prayers in your personal journey if any of what I am saying resonates with you.
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