When The Queen Is Ready, Her King Will Appear

Are you ready? (p.s. for my brothers and Men of God who are on this blog, please read and pass on to your sisters !!)

That is the higher question.

I listened to a live call this past Saturday morning that was very powerful and there so many things that really resonated with my spirit but too much to share in an email, but I will share a few brief nuggets.

(CLICK HERE to have access to the next free Girlfriend’s Therapy and Saturday Sisterhood sessions on Thursday 4/5/18 at 9PM EST and Saturday 4/7/18 at 11am EST  of this powerful sisterhood call on love, men, money, wholeness and being a Real Queen. Seating is limited)

When we carry the negative expectation of being disappointed by a man because of our past experiences (our father wounds & disappointments, ex-husbands, ex-boyfriends, ex-fiancés), we prove ourselves right and set ourselves up to be disappointed.

When we have lived a life of being:

Unseen

Uncovered

Unsought for.

We cover, hide, make excuses and pretend.

We are operating in the emotional environment of disappointment.  We attract what we expect – more disappointment.

A Queen has positioned and prepared herself by opening her heart to God first, learning how to receive from God first and then she can trust and receive from a man again.  It’s called having an open heart, not a hard and closed heart. We can verbalize that we trust God, but our actions (mindless dating and dinners, casual sex here and there, fruitless activities, busyness, and numbness) say something else.

Disappointments, hurts, traumas and dramas keep us in a protective mode, a spirit of disappointment and a negative expectation that overrides our prayers and keep us in learned helplessness “waiting on Boaz”.  That is not the way of a Queen!

A Queen intentionally develops into her personal state of wholeness and worthiness.  She is about purpose.  Why do we deeply desire marriage before we have even discovered why God put us on this earth for– our purpose?

Why get connected to a man while you are still broken and starving for love? Why?

When you find a man and get married in this state of mind it is always painful.  Especially, when years later you come realize your true life purpose, but alas the man you are married too is not in alignment and you are not able to flow in what God called you to do.

A Queen is already in her flow.  She is in position, wholehearted, open to love and purposeful when her King appears.

This means releasing and healing from those negative disappointments and expectations.

This means opening your heart and being able to trust again.

This means expanding your capacity to receive.

Oh and by the way, this all affects your finances too.

As long as we are frustrated, disappointment in the romance department or greedy and inpatient for money, we are blocked up.

Love and financial increase requires being stretched to receive. It requires the ability to be whole and to take risks.  It requires trust and stretching.

This means that there will be discomfort.  This means trusting God more.  This means healing the old trauma, dramas and wounds.  This means letting go of disappointments, pride and unworthiness that make your heart hard instead of open. It requires a willingness to exercise faith and do the heart and emotional work.

That is the problem also.  We like quick fixes and we do not want extra work.  So we distract ourselves with our phones, social media, TV, our kids and whatever else.  Anything but work on our purpose.

Do not ask God for the new, when you are still stuck in the old spirit and the old energy of still “waiting”, being disappointed and frustrated.  Don’t ask for nothing new when you keep staying too busy with fruitless activities far away from your purpose.

The moment you make a choice to get back on track with your purpose you are that much closer to being in position for your King.  The moment you decide to let go of the trauma, drama and disappointment of what your father or your ex did and all the others, that is one moment closer to your king.

When the Queen in ready, her King will appear.

To learn more and be a part of this very anointed and eye-opening calls coming up this Thursday @ 9PM EST and Saturday @ 11Am EST, CLICK HERE.

Love,

Tonika

That relationship ended 5 years, 1 year, 6 months ago or last week.

 

Are you are still ruminating and re-hashing over in your mind what happened?  Scrolling thru your phone looking at pics and old text messages? Still waking up with that person on your mind? Having dreams about him or her?

How much of your emotional and mental energy is going back to that same old situation instead of into your PURPOSE & DESTINY? Listen to this powerful call on So You Ended It, Now What?  Learn practical ways to move on and get out of the OLD STORY of that Relationship so that you can move forward in your purpose and future!

You can call to listen to the replay at:

Playback Number:

(712) 775-7029

Access Code:

179148#

Reference # 18

Or Click here to listen via the web

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The relationship is over but you are still thinking about what happened…

Sometimes, if you are like me, you get stuck. You get stuck re-playing the wreck.  Just like on those news feeds on TV, where they replay the scene of an accident or crime scene over and over again.

And we often, go back and pick through the garbage, the details, the memories, the conversations, and on and on and on of what happened and we get stuck.

I’m here to help you get unstuck out of the rewind and replaying the wreck pattern!!

This is YOUR opportunity to receive clarity, a different perspective or an actual action plan or strategy to take away that can help you navigate this healing season.

Perhaps all you need is one key nugget, one point that can make the shift.  Perhaps you need to hear someone who can see it totally different from the way you see it because as the saying goes, you can’t see the picture if you are the frame!

Join us tonight on this special class. You have nothing to lose as it is FREE and it’s time to SHOW UP FULLY FOR YOU. If you have recently ended a relationship or know in your heart you need to end it, get on this call as Christina Saunders and I share on: how to get real, be healed and move on without shame, how to release your Ex out of your heart and mind, how to stop worrying if they found someone else “better”, and how to pick up the pieces of your life and get back on track with your purpose.  Join us Tuesday, January 24th – 7PM EST Call 712-775-7031, Code 179148 — Share this in your networks! #ItsTimeToShift #Relationships #Love #NoRebounding #Empowerment #SelfLove #Purpose #Peace #Pain2Power2Purpose #Growth #Healing #NoRegrets #MoveOn #DestinyIsCalling

 

TB